Both of my grandfathers were dead before I was born. My parents divorced when I was 5. My mom died when I was 19.
Yet there always seemed to be an answer before I even knew something went wrong.
I have a set of grandparents that are not related to me in the slightest. They were simply church friends of my parents that happen to be grandparenting age when I came along and somehow I was absorbed into this world of one grandfather, and three grandmothers. I never thought about the math until I was much too old to be proud of. I have no idea why these people are in my life, played such a crucial role in my life, or continue to be a large part of my life, but there it is. I’m just lucky I suppose.
My sister and I and my father moved in with my grandmother after my parent’s divorce. I don’t know the specifics of how this happened, but all I know is that it was right before Christmas. My parent’s divorce was difficult and I’m not sure how I would’ve gotten through it without the calm and steadying force of my grandmother. She was always there when I needed her to be. It was like having a mom around, but a mom that actually is your grandmother is a child’s dream, right? I’m just lucky I suppose.
My stepmom and I got off to a rocky start. I was a big time momma’s boy growing up, and the idea of someone replacing her infuriated me to no end. By the time I was driving things were better between us but not complete. But I can remember a distinct change in our relationship right around the time my sister moved out of the house. We went on to develop a relationship that today I would say is extremely strong, and I like to think it gained a lot of weight in the death of my mother. Diane really stepped up for my sister and I then and showed support and love that I am not sure she had shown to us previously. Perfect timing. I’m just lucky I suppose.
I have the worst mental health year of my life during my first year of marriage. Most women would’ve fled the situation as quickly as I fell apart. But I married the perfect woman who stood by me even stronger when I needed it most.
I’m just lucky I suppose.