I’ve been with my wife for almost eight years, not as my wife, that has only been two and a half years, you get it. And her older sister (who is my age) has been with her husband for a similar amount of time. And ever since the four of us have been together, we have been very good friends.
Out of all of Sam’s sisters, I have spent the most time with the oldest. I am the closest with her because of this and our age, and probably other reasons I haven’t thought of. Her husband has grown into one of my very best friends. For a long time the four of us would hang out every weekend, hosting dinner parties, playing games, watching movies, and having good times.
Her husband has a large but extremely close group of friends. And basically from the very beginning I have been invited to hang out with this group of people. I have attended house parties, holiday get togethers, barbeques, days at the park, and even a few weddings.
These people are really my kind of folks, they all love movies and music and having fun. Every one of them has a good sense of humor and is easy to talk to. They remind me a lot of my close group of friends. Most importantly they are all genuinely kind and big hearted; concerned that you are having a good time and everything is going well.
I have become close with more than a few of these friends. So much so that I feel like I am invited to events on my own merit, not just because I am a brother-in-law of someone in the group.
It has been a lot of fun for me and my wife. I hope it has been as much fun for the people choosing to include us. But when I think about it all it is more than a little baffling. They have no reason to invite us. They certainly didn’t need more friends.
I think it might say something about me that this has happened. Maybe I’m more fun to be around than I realize. Maybe I provide something in friendship that I don’t even know I’m doing. It is hard for me believe I deserve it. It is hard for me to comprehend that they might be doing something beyond just being nice and inviting me to tag along.
So far I have learned to not ask questions and just enjoy the ride. These people have become an integral part of my social setting and I can’t really imagine what that part of my life would look like today without them. I am extremely grateful to have been brought into this group and even more so to have been welcomed with such open arms.